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For Your Immediate Attention: Oooo, Child, Do We Need to Talk?

As promised, I have a juicy hot topic for us to discuss that has been buzzing all over Black Twitter, social media, the blogs and has had everyone in an uproar this past week!

It begins and ends with the music industry.

Ladies and Gentlemen, we have to speak about our fellow black brother, IRV Gotti!

I don't know if all of you have been keeping up with "The Murder, Inc Story" airing Tuesday nights at 9 PM on BET, but your girl has!

And I have many comments for Mr. Irving Domingo Lorenzo Jr.

But more importantly, Twitter has taken Mr. IRV Gotti to social media court!

Now, this will not be in any way an opportunity to bash or attack any parties involved, but I feel like we should address a few things together as a community.

Spoiler Alert: if you have not watched the documentary, head to BET and catch up. It's pretty fascinating, and anybody who knows me knows I love me some Ja Rule & Ashanti!

And the empire IRV Gotti built is quite remarkable. Our fellow black man truly deserves his flower!

But, after watching this week's episode and his recent commentary on Drink Champs, I need Mr. IRV Gotti to step to the front of the For Your Immediate Attention Court.

We need to discuss his recent comment on my homegirl in my head, The Grammy Award Winning Singer, Ashanti!

While I understand Mr. Gotti is telling the story of his remarkable work, I think we should have a certain decorum and respect for someone we love or have loved in the past, even if we feel like they have done us wrong.

I am not here to put words in his mouth, but I know if a former lover hurt me, I may be unable to hold my tongue.

But, as a black community working towards healing, creating space for love, being open to apologies, and accepting all, Mr. Gotti might have missed our new mission statement.

And that's okay!

His comments may not have come from a malicious place at all, but they possibly have caused harm to women that look like you and me.

So, gentleman, I hope you take a page from this post and keep what you and your former lover or current lover do behind closed doors.

While Ashanti has taken the high road and has not made any statements yet, I can only imagine how she or other women who have experienced or dealt with similar commentary feel.

As human beings, we have to be responsible for the words we state and apologize if we have caused harm to another human being.

And, I can't lie; I think a possible apology may need to be provided by Mr. Irv Gotti himself.

When we are hurt, we often share details that not everyone needs to be included in what is happening behind closed doors. Cause, y'all, not every piece of information needs to be sent in a mass group message!

Sometimes those messages need to be returned and kept with the sender trying to disseminate the message.

I feel like Irv Gotti's story of the success of Murder INC was enough without sharing his behind-the-door closed activities.

Therefore, I think there needs to be an apology immediately to Ashanti or a small healing conversation between the two parties on how they can move forward!

Cause no woman or man wants a significant other, who spreads their business through the streets!

What do you all think?

Do you think Irv Gotti was warranted to make the statements he made?

Do you think he is out of line?

Should Ashanti be upset?

Are we giving too much time to this topic?

Because I don't think Irv Gotti was wrong for telling us that he had a relationship with the beautiful Ashanti, but I think he could have done it differently.

Let me know in the comments what you think!

I am entirely interested and open to hearing all of your opinions.

See you all in two weeks!

Peace + Prosperity,

Jadis DeShong-Venay


Drink Champs. (2022, August 6). Ja Rule & Irv Gotti Talk The Murder Inc Story, Putting Ashanti On, DMX's Death & More [Video]. YouTube.

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